I couldn’t possibly update you on everything that’s been happening, because even just the past week has been insane – lots of scary unknown illness, lots of case plan craziness, lots of drama that I don’t even like to think about in my own head – so I won’t share it with yours.
So anyway, things that are pertinent and need prayer.
Bella and Tootaw have a hearing this Thursday.
Brake. Rewind. I don’t think I’ve let you in on the fact that Dad has been MIA for the last 8 weeks. Don’t know where he is, can’t get a hold of him, no contact with the agency – poof.
So, like I said, a hearing this Thursday, and although I think it’s where we’d be anyway, due to Mom and Dad’s disappearances and other shenanigans as of late, she is definitely recommending that the case goal be changed to adoption.
This means lots of pain and processing for my girls. This means that we may become forever sooner than later. This means that my daughters will finally be able to work toward some healing. This means that my four girls would officially and legally be sisters (ya know, after like, three more court hearings.)
Overall I think that at this point this is what is best for the girls – but it is still heartbreaking. I get easily overwhelmed at the thought of all that they will have to process, the hurdles they must cross, and the hurt they will encounter. But, God is good, and he will walk us through this marathon one step at a time until we reach the end. I do pray that at this point they go ahead and change the goal. For the goal to remain reunification seems an act of futility with the direction the case has taken in the last 6-8 months.
If you could pray for the hearing, I would be so grateful. It seems like we are waiting anxiously for something so momentous, but equally as devastating.
And, of course, foster care could not be so obliging as to make for an easy decision…
So two weeks before the hearing, who shows up out of nowhere?
Requesting a visit.
After 6 months of being MIA.
This post would quickly be much too long if I went into how infuriating that is to me. BUT, praise God, the caseworker sees things the same way that we do and acknowledges how traumatic it would be for the girls to have a visit at this point. She has decided no visit prior to the hearing, and only afterward if it is court ordered. That was a blessing for us, for the girls, and for Bella’s health.
So, that is a (very) quick recap of where we are in the girls’ case right now. Thursday couldn’t be over fast enough. We will see what happens, for now, just trying to trust.