We had a little girl placed with us yesterday. She’s 3, and she’s sweet, and she’s beautful, and she’s very, very sick.
When intake called they told us that she was sick. They also told us that she would have treatment at the hospital once every ten days. They also told us that she only had treatment for another 2 months and then she was done. They also told us she could start preschool in January.
Well. actually only one of these things they told us is correct, and that one thing is that she is sick.
We got to the hospital to pick her up and we spoke with the social worker and doctor for a few minutes. They had already told her that she was going home with us. We went in and met her and they started training us on how to care for her.
It wasn’t until the last few minutes of our meeting that they told us the reality of all this. Things we hadn’t been told.
So come to find out, she doesn’t just have treatment once every ten days. She has to go to labs twice per week – which takes a few hours – and she has treatment every ten days – which takes several hours. This all amounts to two to three days in the hospital every week. Also, she has treatment for two more years, not months.
I’m not under the impression that this is our agency’s fault in any way – I don’t think the hospital gave them the correct information, or all of the information.
The problem lies in that what we thought we were saying yes to, and what we were really saying yes to are two completely different things. I can be at the hospital one day every ten days, but with having other kids, I cannot be at the hospital two to three days per week. I can’t expect Sylvie to sit in a waiting room for hours three days per week, I don’t have anywhere she can stay for that amount of time – and being away from the girls three out of five days won’t work.
We’ve told the agency that this isn’t something we can do long term. There are a few relatives that we’re hoping pan out in which case she could go there from our house. Otherwise they will have to find another home for her.
I hate that. I hate this situation. If we had only known to begin with, we would have known we weren’t a good match and we would have said no. Now this poor baby girl who is already dealing with so, so much is going to have to move again. I hate it. It’s hard not to feel very frustrated. I know that no one gave misinformation on purpose – but this is a big deal. Let’s get it right.
Please, please pray. Pray for her health, pray for her heart, pray that one of her relatives comes through.