April 30, 2010

Ending on a Positive Note.

So all the posts this week have kinda been downers.  I promise to end this one on a positive note.  Maybe a picture of a cute kitten or something else smile inducing.

The truth is, this has been a rough week.  And I’m not here to make foster parenting look easy – I’m here to show that it’s hard and brings challenges, but that it is doable and completely worth it.  No one signs up to be a foster parent thinking it’s all going to be roses and I love you’s (although I’ve received both during our time as foster parents, so all hope is not lost!).  Someone I was talking to, or possibly reading the blog of {let’s hear it for modern communication} was telling me their thoughts on the difficulty of fostering.  I think it was my friend Katherine. 

It is hard.  And there are struggles.  And there are tears.

But doesn’t every child deserve to be loved enough and cared for enough that someone finds them worth tears?


And that’s also the example Christ gave us.  He loved us even though it hurt.  He found us worth tears, agony even.  He took us as His own when it wasn’t required of Him because he loves us.  And he is going to stick out the good times and the rough times with us until we find ourselves home.


So.  Given the opportunity to love these kids through the hurt, I will (try, and surely fail sometimes) to count it all joy, count it all joy, count it all joy.  (Any Adventure in Odyssey fans out there?)

I have been leaning so heavily on these verses this week:

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.  Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be made mature and complete, not lacking anything.  If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

                           James 1:2-5

and of course this one:

Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

                          James 1:19-20


And, on a positive note, I am SO thankful that:

  • The boys had a really great morning this morning.  No yelling, no smarting off, no throwing fits, no complete breakdowns in communication.
  • Brian and I had time yesterday to sit down and create a behavior chart for each of the boys, and I am so looking forward to see it’s fruit.
  • Sylvia is such a happy baby.  She brings me joy every time I look at her, hear her sweet voice, or have to comfort her.  Thank you Lord for my sweet baby girl.
  • The boys (finally!) have a visit with their mom tonight.  Here’s to hoping it goes well.  Here’s to naively hoping it might improve their behavior instead of degrade it. {I can hope, can’t I?}
  • And, drum roll please,      the caseworker finally called me!!!  For the first time in the three weeks the boys have been with us, I was able to ask questions, and get answers.  Amen! 

IMG_6381-1 Nothing much more smiling inducing than that!

(I mean, all biases aside.  But not really.)


  1. Well said sweetie! And my goodness, that is a beautiful baby girl!! She smiles like her momma, all squinty eyed!

  2. First time commenter (is that a word?) just want to say:
    A) your daughter is adorable
    B) I've learned that anything worth having is hard work. I choose the roller coaster every time :)

  3. I'm so glad that you and Brian see through the boys' behavior to their broken hearts. Your hard work with them will pay off. I just hope you get to see it. Soon. I'm praying that you would know the Lord's mercies anew every morning. (And please feel free to leave that beautiful baby girl with us again when you need another date. Just in case you didn't believe me the first time I said it. :))

  4. There is a phrase that has recently become popular in my church, "I can do hard things." It's a fairly simple statement but means so much more than the surface simplicity. Related to, 'I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.'

    This phrase is one I want to tell people who ask why we want to foster. I can do hard things. So can you. We're all capable of much more than we're often willing to attempt. It takes faith in ourselves and God.

    Thank you for your real example. The trick is to find the joy in the struggle, and you're doing it.

    That is one of the cutest baby smiles!


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