We have 5 kids in the house tonight. Jae and Zee’s brother (6) and sister (11) are here to spend the night.
We almost had to cancel the visit. The boys had a terrible morning. Screaming, yelling threats, calling names, opening and slamming doors, defiance, and throwing things. I really didn’t want to cancel the visit, but I was beginning to think it was inevitable.
Finally, it was like something snapped, and Jae actually started trying to be civil. Zee is a follower, and was only acting that way because of Jae – so when he started to make the turnaround so did Zee.
The visit is going really well so far. I assumed it would – they’re all excited to see each other and we’ve only just met their siblings, so the honeymoon is on in full force.
They want to know whether or not we can take their siblings after the visit.
Right now I really feel like we need to say no. The boys are still struggling so much with behaviors – there are days I feel like we’ve made no progress at all. It’s possible that their siblings would move in and it would alleviate some of their stress and therefore improve morale around here. But it’s also possible that things wouldn’t improve at all, and we’d have twice as many kids who don’t know how to express their anger. I’m not sure we’d be very effective (or sane) if that were the case.
So anyway. More of an update after the visit. We’re having a good time right now – good memories.