February 19, 2010

Good Lovin'

I got a phone call yesterday afternoon letting me know that the court has ordered for X-man to move. I was expecting this - what I wasn't expecting was the IMMEDIATELY that followed up that order. When I asked what immediately meant, my worker, in the nicest possible way let me know that they wanted him moved yesterday evening. My mind really started working, "That's not fair! Brian won't even be able to say goodbye! He's supposed to go out of town with us this weekend! I can't even get his stuff packed up by then! This is not ok!"
After a lot of tears and some superman-strength pulling of strings by our worker, she still said we only had until today (friday) in the afternoon. But then she called a little later and said we could keep him until Sunday evening, so he could go out of town with us. Praise God!
I've been mentally preparing myself for his move - but I was not prepared to say goodbye in under 24 hours.

I will miss him so, so much. This is the worst part of being a foster parent. Saying goodbye. I think no matter how many kids we say goodbye to, it will always hurt. But that is good. It means we loved each other well. Good lovin' makes it hard to say goodbye. I really just have to keep in mind the blessing that it has been for him to be a part of our family for this time. Even with the hurt, I would not trade it for anything. God placed him in our arms for a reason, and he is moving on for a reason. I just pray he remembers our love.

Because we love that sweet boy so much.

More of an update soon. Please pray for his little heart during this transition.


  1. Wow, I feel so bad for the little guy. He will definintely be in my prayers. Just recently found your blog.. via Kelly's Korner. I love it! We are also in the process of becoming foster parents. :)

  2. Ha! I just commented on your blog!

  3. We had to give up our little Baby Z last october, and it was the hardest thing we've ever done. Is it true that the first one is the hardest? I can't imagine doing it again...

  4. Praying for you and so thankful for people like you that are willing to open their hearts and homes.

  5. I'm so glad to have found your blog (from Kelly's). My husband and I have been considering adoption or fostering, and are open to whatever God wants us to do. It's great to read some real stories on your blog!

  6. Well, I'm not sure I'd say it gets easier. But you do know what to expect after the first, which helps you prepare. Like I said though, it's always worth it.

  7. I'm so sorry Maggie! How old is the little guy? I dread the day we have to say goodbye to the 2 boys we have right now. They are both amazing kids. You're right, the hardest part about fostering is letting them go.

    Oh, I added to you to my blog. You should be getting a request in your email. In case you don't, my blog is www.lifeoftheclarkes.blogspot.com. I haven't posted in awhile so I need to make an update. I'm bad about posting on a regular basis.


  8. Asking the Father to be ever so near to all of you. Love yall! Riv

  9. Your all in my thoughts in prayers. I pray you all have an easy transition and I am sure he will remember how much you love him.

    Making Our Family Complete

  10. Hi Maggie! Thank you for your comment on my blog. :)

    I can't wait to dig deeper into your blog. I have always wanted to foster, but assumed I would commit murder if I had to return a baby/child to a horrendous situation. God Bless you & your husband for opening your hearts & home to those who need you so much!

    Congrats on that baby girl, too. :)

  11. Kristy K- I hope that our stories can encourage you to foster! There is such a need - let me know if you have any questions about it!

    April- Thanks for adding me to your blog! I'm looking forward to following it! X-man is coming up on 21 months, but developmentally he is at about 12 months. He's a sweet boy.

    Lois- Thanks so much for your prayers, they are so appreciated. I'm looking forward to checking out your blog as well!

    Melissa - Letting kids go into the unknown is definitely very difficult - after reading your blog though, you are a tough woman! Thanks for coming by - I'm looking forward to reading more about your beautiful family.

  12. Maggie,

    Thank you for your sweet note on my blog. I have spent about an hour reading your blog. Bless you. What you do is so tough, but you have made a huge difference in the lives of those children. I'm sure this weekend will be tough for you. Thinking of you.

  13. I just found your blog through Kelly's Korner. My husband and I have struggled with infertility for over 2 years and are considering fostering. We are praying and seeing where God leads us. I can't wait to read more of your blog.

  14. Your ministry makes God look glorious. As the one who satisfies and sustains you through heartbreak-- the beautiful heart ache that comes from loving until we are spent.
    Thank you for this example, my sweet friends.


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